You know what the great thing is about life? There are always choices. Even when you think your path has closed, with enough faith and hope, new roads emerge.
I'll be honest. Getting over the sting of our foster-adopt debacle was not easy. J and I both needed time to grieve. We both grieved at different times and in diverse ways; but we've moved on. And as most bumps in the road tend to do, it has made us even stronger.
We were left with two decisions. Pretty simple ones in fact. We could not have children and still live a great life. We could travel a lot and not be tied down to a child's schedule and needs and both live a happy life. Through this process, the one thing I did learn is that if we didn't have kids, I would be okay. And I think that was a very important place to get to.
But, we knew in our hearts that we wanted to be parents. So, we found a new road and looked into private adoption. After some serious soul searching and research (especially about the cost,) I am very happy to say that we are going with
We recently signed on with Independent Adoption Center (IAC) and will adopt a newborn baby hopefully within the next year and a half! IAC does open adoption and we are so thrilled. They are a wonderful agency and we know they are the right route to building our family.
We are already deep into our home study and although it's a lengthy process, it's okay. It just means that our baby is not ready yet. It's so hard not to get caught up in "why did this happen," but the truth is, it doesn't matter. I don't know the answer to that...no one does. What does matter is that things will happen when they are supposed to.
So, when you're ready Baby G, Mommy and Daddy will be right here waiting for you!